Hey guys, the fact is that we all come accross “enemies” at points. Sometimes we make them, sometimes they make themselves. Bear that in mind – we “make enemies”, in other words, right until the battle lines are drawn, you have a chance to make them a friend. One powerful method I have found, and probably the best one for dealing with enemies is to act oblivious to their actions and intentions and instead treat them as your best friend and always find something super positive in even the worst thing that your enemy has done.

It is also important to clasify your enemy:

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    • Enemies of no or little reason
    • People who are only enemies in your mind
    • Enemies made through genuine error
    • Enemies who are an annoyance
    • Enemies who are persistant

The first group are those of spurious or poor reason, these people can often be won over with the “oblivious love” technique. Those made through genuine error or persistant fools from the first group have to be dealt with at a defcon 3 level, – suffucation through lack of attention, intentional ignoring, underreaction, lack of emotion, and damage control are the keys here. This starves them of oxygen, and at this point you can choose to move in with a random kind gesture to win them over, or attempt to write them off as a loss and cut them out of your lfie whereever possbile.

The last group are the most dangerous, and its here that I put the unstable,  the jealous, the angry, the obsessive. They too must have their attention oxygen starved, but ultimately some need dealing with. This might be a straightforward apology from your or you might be planning revenge. Rather typically I am going to advise against revenge of any other sort than doing exceptionally well in life (to annoy them) as the time taken and emotional drain placed on you will be horrific. As a serious student of economic self development, and by that I mean taking the path of greatest profit, you should avoid revenge at all costs.

Should you suceed, ensure the social humilation of your victim is absolute and untraceable. Even the slightest wiff of anything suspicous will make your enemy grow in strength and collect allies. Far better to expose your enemy for what they are and use their words and actions, and only theirs, unembelished to reveal them to others for what they are. Again, this revelation should be carefully dealt with, evidence collected and then revealed in one go.

At this point regardless of the group that your enemy falls into and regardless of your chosen method, you then to need to walk away from the situation. Excess emotion must be dealt with and if this is hard for you then I recommend writing a letter to your enemy explaining why they should not be your enemy, how you have reached a peace within yourself about the situation and how it has ended. Write it by hand with pen or pencil, pop it in a draw and pull it out in a week or two and reread. Keep repeating this process until the rereading process makes the writing feel out of date and lacking any impact on you. Then destroy the letters and move on.